Recently one of my relatives dropped to our place and she was telling us about how disciplined her son (10 yr old) is. He always does his home work/studies before anything else and so on. She told us that recently when he was watching Twent20 cricket, she told him that if he gets addicted to cricket then gone are his dreams of joining IIT (one of the most prestigious universities of India). After she left, I pondered over how parents are largely responsible for making their kids prone to unhappiness. Setting goals are okay, but why ruin the present in pursuit of future? Does getting into IIT guarantee happiness? By making your kid goal oriented, you are teaching your kid to live in the future, a sure fire way to unhappiness. Once the kid goes into IIT, he'll immediately have a next goal, of getting a high paying job. After that, a house, and so on. It's not just him, but each one of us. But are we happy? No! We are constantly looking for happiness in the future and it'll never come. Because if you are not happy now, you can never be happy. Then why make him suffer like us? Instead, let him enjoy the life at its fullest. Don't teach him to get #1 rank. Teach him to put his 100% every time and forget about the results. Teach him about enjoying the game and not about winning. Success will follow automatically. Nurturing the right values in your kids it the best gift you can give to them. Please don't take the smile and fun out your kid's lives.