Work at Home Dad where My worst enemy is my Wife......

Discussion in 'Work at Home Dads' started by Luis Baez, Oct 29, 2013.

  1. Luis Baez

    Luis Baez New Member

    Hello Guy's I'm sure probably a lot of you relate to this, I lost my job and have decided to focus on My Marketing Online full-time. I have been doing this since 2005 part-time and not really focus at it because of working full-time.. Unfortunately my Wife does not believe in this kind of Stuff she things i'm wasting my time and Money.. I have Made Money before but not enough to prove her wrong! My reason to do this is not just my Family but I'm tired of working for somebody else and to also see people suffering too and not have a way out either... I want to be the One to provide that to them to show them there is a way out and they don't have to work 2 or 3 jobs or even 12hrs a Day for 5 days.. THAT'S CRAZY!!!!
  2. drknlvly6781

    drknlvly6781 Active Member

    "If you're going through hell, keep going!"-Winston Churchill

    If this is your dream and all that you are working towards, you will see the results that you desire. Many people go through this with their spouse, but at the same time you need that support to help you through this. What my suggestion would be is to first sit your wife down and explain your passion for working at home and the way you are trying to provide. I would also suggest getting around others who share your mindset, and her as well. A simple way you can do this is to join the Think and Grow Rich MasterMind Group. This is a large group of people who work from home that mastermind and share ideas. We meet every morning go over the principles in the book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, Monday through Friday. The call is non-company specific, and can give you new motivation towards your goals, as well as help your wife to understand the journey you are on.

    You can learn more about this group at this website Best of luck to you on your journey, and hope to hear you on the call!
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  3. A8ch

    A8ch Gold Member

    Not having your wife's support can be a serious obstacle to overcome. It can weigh on your mind and certainly deflate some of your enthusiasm. The trick, and the challenge, is to use the emotions it stirs up in you to propel yourself forward. Create a workable plan, and then buckle down and do whatever it takes to get on with advancing to your goals.

    Success is the ultimate mind-changer.

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  4. KB24

    KB24 Active Member

    I know what you are going through. Had family members say "get a real job" "your wasting your time" "This internet marketing thing is a scam" They all shut up when I showed them my first check. Ever since then I knew that making money online was "real" and it just pushed me more. P.M me maybe I can help you out.
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  5. payment proof

    payment proof Well-Known Member

    The opportunities to make money online are as big as the Internet itself. There are many entrepreneurs online making money with their own sites, blogs, products, services, etc.

    Has your wife ever made an online purchase? If she has ever spent money online, does she not believe that retailers make money online? ;)

    YAGOOFT Active Member


    Yes, I can relate to that scenario, as can many I know in the home business arena. Some will never admit a home business is the way to go, but having been in many businesses over the years, I don't want to hear it, and I don't. Some are great, some not, so what, it is those who never quit who succeed and have last laugh. I have been working from home for past three decades and would never start a traditional business again.

    Success to all,
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  7. mountainmom5

    mountainmom5 Gold Member

    I have been in your shoes Luis and what I had to realize was that until I actually WAS making some money, my husband had every right in the world not to believe in my efforts. I have seen people try to make money at home for years, without ever making anything worth shaking a stick at. It takes a lot of effort and a huge learning curve for anything you do online.

    Once I started making money, he was totally impressed tho.
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  8. GTR

    GTR New Member

    WOW ... you've been marketing for 8 years and you're not making a livable wage????? I understand your wife's opinion. I would say you are selling the wrong products or in the wrong program. You should be making a livable wage after 2 years. If not then it's time to try something different.

    Depending on what you want to sell or what your specialty is, I know a few Affiliate Programs that you might want to try. I do suggest you pick one program and stick to it unless they benefit each other.

    Best of luck!
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  9. DBrown

    DBrown New Member

    I know what you're going through. I was "that guy" with my wife. She saw the possibilities and opportunities that I refused to see. I felt her actions and risks were forced upon me, which created an immediate tension point between us. I believed (with all my heart) that she was putting us squarely in the middle of a pyramid scheme horror story. I fought her tooth and nail, said many things I wish I could take back. I even went out of my way to tell my friends to avoid this idea. (Boy did that come back and bite me) I was not a good husband and I was certainly anything but supportive. Yes, I'm ashamed of things I said and did during that time and I've told her so many many times since.

    Looking back at the situation now, both sides could have handled things better. Or at least did and said things in a much more marriage friendly way. I'll tell you right now, yes my wife was right in her thoughts and beliefs about what she wanted to do. I think it would have gone over more smoothly if this "something" wasn't just thrust upon me, with no conversation or communication. It was done in such a way where I was made to feel I had no say or choice in the matter. One that I thought could possibly have big implications with our family and financial status. I didn't know anything and none of my fears or concerns were ever addressed before a decision was made.

    I guess what I'm saying, is that wanting to work from home is a great idea. But, if you're married, discuss things with your spouse. Listen to them, talk things over, find methods to include them and make them feel as if this is something that you want to do with them or with their support, not in spite of them. Maybe she's fine with you working from home, but doesn't see what you're doing as being the right choice. Listen to it. Maybe she's right? That being said, I've also seen many spouses who don't care what their husband or wife thinks. But that's not just in a work from home idea, it's in every facet of their lives. They will control everything, tell them they will fail, that they are stupid, they and their ideas are worthless, etc. If that's the case, I'm sorry but you will never succeed and in all honesty, you need to get away from that. That has nothing to do with business, that's just a simple fact to be happy.

    I don't know what you're currently doing. But maybe it's time to stop, talk to her, explain to her what you want or see and then ask her if there is something she would be interested in doing with you. At least attempt to accomplish your goals as a unified team, instead of a single unit. Maybe you guys can find something that will bring you closer together? Because you're married, I'm assuming you have to have some common passions or interests. Possibly try and find something that fits nicely with whatever that is. In the end, hopefully she'll at least will feel like she's been heard. Maybe she joins you, maybe she doesn't. But at least she's been included in the decision making process and possibly her fears or concerns have been addressed. Who knows, maybe she even has a better idea for you to get into, that she's currently not inclined to talk to you about? Crazier things have happened. Lastly, let her talk to someone who has been successful in the business that you're doing. Let her ask them the tough questions. She may just need proof that success is possible, by seeing it herself. 3rd party validation is huge!

    Best of luck to you!
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